Last year, I became single again for the first time since I was at university. While it was a long time coming and one of the best things that has happened in recent years (and there have been heaps of great things!), it was a learning curve. I learned a lot. Fast.
And I’ve kept a list. A list of the things I’ve learned from being single and dating for the first time as a real, head-on-my-shoulders adult. I figured I could write a book! But no, this is better. No one wants a coffee table book when they can read this from their phone.
Holy shit, guys – dating is different now!
So I present to you – in pieces – my ever-growing list.
#1 – be prepared to get unsolicited pictures of strangers’ genitals.
You know; the ol’ dick pic. No, I won’t share an example.
It seems a little on the nose. An obvious choice for a first lesson. It’s not the first I’d written down, but it feels like a bit of a quick win, no?
We’ve all heard stories, but I genuinely didn’t believe that it was a thing. At least, not from 40 year old men who really have no business sharing that stuff. Really, it’s nothing to brag about – you should be saving that to show a girl in person, where she has to be polite and can’t laugh.
Honestly, I’m still not sure how to deal with this one.
It happens enough that it doesn’t shock me any more. Usually, I just unmatch the unsavoury individual on the dating app (because, let’s be honest, it’s always on a dating app). Though, the last one I received got this shot back, without comment or context:
Have you experienced this, too? How do you deal with?